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Are your relationships healthy?

A self care inventory

This inventory may help you assess the health of your intimate relationship(s).

Healthy relationships promote total wellbeing. They are achievements, not accidents, even though chance and luck may be initially involved. They require our attention and care so that they can be strengthened and nurtured through time and change.

The items in this inventory do not exhaust all the vital factors in a satisfying relationship nor is there a set of "right answers". But they will get you thinking, will help you evaluate the quality of your relationships and will suggest resources for appropriate changes or help. An examined intimate relationship may be an asset to your health.
Almost Never Sometimes Often Almost Always
Do you and your partner have fun together?          
Do you feel that your partner likes and respects who you are?          
Has physical violence or the threat of it, ever been a problem in your relationship?          
Does "going out for a good time" with your friend usually involve the use of alcohol or other drugs?          
Are you able to be yourself while spending time with your partner?          
Do you feel comfortable about the ways in which you and your partner resolve conflicts?          
Is jealousy a stress in your relationship?          
If sex is a part of your relationship, do both you and your partner find it satisfying and pleasureable?          
Are you able to express warm and intimate feelings in your relationship?          
Do you feel your partner is supportive during easy and hard times?          
Does your partner tend to blame you/hold you responsible for his/her behavior?          
Would you like to "get out" of an intimate relationship but don't know how?          
Would you like to "get into" an intimate relationship but don't know how?          
If you are engaging in sexual intercourse, are you comfortable with the way responsibility for birth control is being handled?          
Can you share and discuss with your partner your answers to all the previous questions?          
 

Taken from Are your Relationships Healthy? A Self-Care Inventory Health Education Division, UMass Amherst 1983