Eating Concerns

Wellesley College is a supportive community that seeks to foster the intellectual, physical, and emotional well being of women. In keeping with this ideal, students, staff, and faculty realize the intense need for support and education around the topics of weight, body image, and eating disorders.

We have found that the pressures which accompany being in an intense academic environment, especially among women, can lead to an increased emphasis on food, body image, and exercise. College students are faced with new living and eating situations. In a small community such as Wellesley, students often compare living and eating habits. Unfortunately, these comparisons can lead to obsession.

Campus Programs and Services

Taking Care of Yourself

Taking Care of Others

  • How to Help a Friend
  • Guidelines for Friends and Family

On Campus Resources For Eating Concerns

 

Stone Center Counseling Service
Monday - Friday, 8:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. (781) 283-2839
Emergencies, after hours, holidays (781) 283-2810

Health Service
24-hours a day, 7 days a week (781) 283-2810

Health Educator
Monday - Thursday, 9:30 a.m. - 5:30 p.m., hours vary (781) 283-2821

Health Service Dietician By appointment (781) 283-2810
Dining Services Representative/Dietitian (781) 283-2716

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Taking Care of Yourself

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Body Image

A body image that's unrealistic, exploitive, and unhealthy

She's skinny, perfectly proportioned-with beautiful hair, glowing skin, fabulous makeup, and the best clothes that money can buy. This may be an ideal that some of us strive to achieve. But it sets a standard that leaves most of us feeling inadequate and unsatisfied with the bodies that we have.

Whatever our beliefs about the exploitation of women, we must all be aware that society-and especially the media-portray an image of women that is both unrealistic and potentially unhealthy for the vast majority of women.

The billion-dollar diet industry tells us constantly in many ways that we need to lose weight. They say that with the proper help- and at the proper price-we can achieve what each weight-loss program has to offer. Yet evidence indicates that weight loss through dieting is almost always put back on. And the original weight is often exceeded.

We know all of this. Yet many of us continue to strive to look like the person we think we want to be. Maybe if we can just lose the weight, we will be a "success." We will be the attractive person others want to be with. Secure. Sexy. Professional. And more.

What we are not good at telling ourselves is that we can be sexy, professional, and self-assured without relentlessly driving ourselves to be thin. In fact, we are okay the way we are.

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Should You Be Concerned About Your Eating?

Ask yourself the following questions, answering each one always, often, sometimes, or never.

 

1. Do you think about food constantly, so that you feel controlled and defined by it?
2. Do you eat large amounts of food in a short period of time, feeling you can't stop?
3. Do you think you are overweight, but other people tell you that you are too thin?
4. Is your weight/shape the most important factor in how you feel about yourself?
5. If you eat one cookie, do you condemn yourself, conclude the day is ruined, and then eat the whole box?
6. Do you keep a running calorie count in your head all day?
7. Do you eat (or not eat) without knowing whether you are hungry or full?
8. Are you convinced that if you gain one pound you'll continue gaining indefinitely?
9. Do you avoid social events because you're afraid to deal with the food there?
10. Do you find it difficult or impossible to eat in front of other people?
11. Do you make yourself vomit after eating, or use laxatives or diuretics, believing they will control your weight?
12. Do you severely restrict your food intake, in part to lose weight, but in part to feel in control or in some way special?

If you answered "often" or "always" to questions 11 or 12 or to any three of the other questions, it would make sense to talk with a professional.

Developed by Margaret McKenna, MD, 1992 (Harvard University)

Healthy Eating & Exercise

Nutrition plays an important role in one’s physical and emotional health. If one is to feel satisfied, energized, and able to concentrate, nutritional balance is needed. It is best to eat every four hours or so, combining small amounts of protein (such as lean meats, legumes, tofu and peanut butter) and carbohydrates (such as whole grains) throughout the day. Be sure to include five servings of fruits and vegetables. Other essentials include four servings of milk or yogurt for calcium per day, and small amounts of fat. The science and art of nutrition must be combined to maintain physical as well as psychological satisfaction.

Exercise is an important component of health. "Healthy Exercise" includes the goal of accumulating at least 30 minutes of moderate-intense physical activity on most, and preferably all, days of the week. Moderate levels of significant physical activity confer significant health benefits. Intermittent or short bouts of activity such as walking briskly to class, climbing stairs, using an exercise machine for at least 10 minutes at a time, three times a day, can have similar health benefits. Moderate exercise has also been found to be helpful in relieving depression.

(Source: Physical Activity and Cardiovascular Health -- NIH Consensus Conference JAMA, July 17, 1996 -- Vol 276, No.3)

Dieting

Ninety percent of dieters are not overweight. Yet many women have extensive experience with dieting, and girls are beginning to diet as early as age nine. Dieting (or restrictive eating) is not the same as being careful about what you eat. Frequent dieting makes it difficult to lose weight because the resting metabolic rate becomes progressively lower with the restriction of food intake. Restrictions may lead to bingeing behaviors, which in turn may promote weight gain, and the possibility of an eating disorder.

Twenty-five years of medical research indicate that diets don’t produce lasting results. After two years, ninety-five percent of dieters regain their lost weight, and may even gain some additional pounds. The concept of yo-yo dieting (going on and off diets) may pose some health risk, such as cardiovascular disease and diabetes later on. Some obesity researchers indicate that being fifteen pounds heavier than average consistently is less risky than losing and regaining the fifteen pounds over and over again.

The best approach to weight loss is to change eating behaviors and improve exercise patterns. Choosing more fruits and vegetables and fewer sweets over the course of a week is a good first step in changing behavior. Maintaining the exercise level described above is another.

How to Recognize an Eating Disorder

Sometimes the preoccupation with losing weight becomes overwhelming. Many women seem to be caught up in an obsession with some desired goal. To reach that goal, we may starve ourselves (Anorexia). We may also eat large quantities and then, from our fear of getting fat, feel the need to purge to get rid of the food (Bulimia). We may exercise excessively to burn calories. We may repeatedly binge on large quantities of food without purging (Binge Eating Disorder.) Or we may simply feel guilty for the food we have eaten.

When our relationship with food and weight becomes more important than our relationships, studying, or other activities, the borderline has been crossed. Patterns of dealing with food may become ingrained in a way that limits our activities and cuts us off from healthier pursuits. At this point, these patterns have become addictions and have taken on a life of their own.

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Anorexia & Bulimia

Anorexia

Anorexics restrict their eating, and are noticeably underweight, but when they look at their skinny bodies in the mirror, they see only the bulges. Although often hungry, they feel overweight and are intensely fearful of gaining weight. The goal is always to lose more pounds. This distortion can affect other areas of their lives as well, often seeing themselves as deficient if not doing perfect academic work, for example.

Aside from the small percentage who actually starve to death, risks associated with anorexia include prolonged loss of the menstrual period and the resultant irreversible loss of bone density, loss of intellectual functioning due to inadequate nutrition, the development of body hair, and loss of skin tone, along with the preoccupation with food and weight loss.

Bulimia

Although the original definition of bulimia emphasized the binge eating, we have come to include purging in our understanding of the disorder. Purging generally, though not always, follows a binge and may come from induced vomiting, taking laxatives or compulsive over-exercising.

The goal is to get rid of calories. Bulimics tend to have a better sense of their actual body size and shape than anorexics, but they also are preoccupied with food, the next binge, the next purge. Many feel disgust or shame at their behavior and then go to great lengths to maintain secrecy.

Risks for vomiters include serious electrolyte imbalances, swollen glands, dental destruction, stomach and esophageal damage. For laxative users, damage to the lower intestinal tract and colon is a danger.

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Compulsive Behaviors

Overeating

Healthy eating means eating when hungry and stopping when satisfied, but what if achieving it seems virtually impossible? People eat for a variety of reasons: some eat as an emotional coping mechanism, others eat for physiological reasons. Overeating is eating beyond what your body needs. Compulsive overeating is the persistent practice of overeating.

It is important to identify the reasons we eat, recognizing that one food, meal or day of overeating will not make someone overweight! One must remember that no one food is bad, if most of what is eaten offers balance.

Exercising

Regular exercise is good for everyone, and a healthy exercise program is beneficial. However, over-exercising can become a problem. Women who exercise compulsively generally also have inflexible eating patterns and are obsessed with their weight. These women often are perfectionists and have a great desire for control. The following are traits that many compulsive exercisers exhibit. They are also common to some people who abuse food, whether they are compulsive exercisers or not. Do these traits sound familiar?

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Characteristics of Some Eating Disorders

  • Drive for Perfection

  • You expect yourself to have a perfect body, eat only the right foods, and maintain the perfect exercise schedule. So you constantly push yourself to live up to these demanding expectations. You punish yourself if you fall short. You may lack a healthy perspective on food, weight, and exercise.
  • Desire for Control

    You desire to control areas of your life that are within your grasp -your diet, weight, and exercise program. You may set rigid rules for yourself, such as:

* Ritually running over five miles every day, despite weather, aches, illness, fatigue, or holidays.

* Restricting high-fat foods. No birthday cake, ice cream, salad dressing, or peanut butter for you. Other people can eat these foods, but you must avoid them to remain perfectly thin.

* Monitoring your weight daily. If the scale reads higher than your "acceptable" weight, you punish yourself by exercising harder and eating less. You mercilessly judge yourself according to these rules. You are either "good" or "bad," according to the scale.

  • Compulsive Behaviors

You feel that you cannot skip a single day of exercise without gaining weight. To compensate for compulsive eating, you compulsively exercise, using exhaustive exercise to burn off the calories and retain an acceptable weight. A vicious cycle of work, food, and exercise abuse develops.

  • Feelings of Inadequacy

    You may still feel inadequate despite all your efforts. You constantly pressure yourself to be better. You train even harder, diet harder, work harder. No matter how many hours you exercise, it is never enough. This constant feeling of inadequacy may drive you to exhaustion. At this point, you may abuse food as a reward.
  • Trouble with Intimate Relationships

    Rather than let a partner or friend get close, you opt for predictable and "safe" activities that you can do alone-including working, exercising, and eating.
  • Denial of Feelings

    You may bury yourself in work, exercise, or food. For example, rather than stay home and confront your problems, you may exhaust yourself with an inordinate amount of exercise and then treat yourself to an ice cream sundae. Somehow, chocolate seems to hide the emptiness of the present, the pain of the past, and the fear of the future-but only temporarily.
  • Sound Familiar?

    If these traits sound familiar and you feel as though your life is becoming unmanageable, it is time to seek help. Counselors can help you focus your energy into other productive avenues and allow you to establish a better balance between food, weight, and exercise
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  • Last updated on April 28, 2008